Letters of the Heart – September 2014

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Don’t Look Where You Don’t Want To Go

Are you familiar with the idea that we tend to attract more of what we focus on? Here’s a great story that perfectly illustrates this concept. 

A man who was afraid of heights decided to conquer his fear by rappelling down the side of a steep cliff. A guide was on hand to help him, but as he   stood on the edge of the cliff, the sight of the long drop and the rocks waiting for him down below made him freeze.

The guide gave him some simple advice: “Don’t look where you don’t want to go.”  By this simple twist on familiar goal-setting advice (“look where you want to go”), the man was able to complete his descent.

The following Monday at work, the man remembered his mountaineering advice.  He had been stressing about all the stuff he didn’t like about his work: his boss, his effectiveness, his job duties, some of his co-workers. He had been trying to create goals for himself, but they just made him feel anxious and incomplete.

After his climbing trip, he realized that he was overly focused on what he didn’t like about his workplace. So he resolved to not look at the things he didn’t like. He chose instead only to focus the entire day on what he liked.
The result? He found himself relaxing more, getting along with his boss better, and getting more done.

After reading this story, I spent the entire day reciting things I like about my work and the people I work with. I refused to look at my problems or shortcomings. Within minutes I felt great. Give it a try and see for yourself, and let me know what you think!


Melanie Bowers
Your Consultant For Life
P.S. If you’ve got a story to tell, you can reach me at melaniebowers@gmail.com or by calling me at 801-910-7436.

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